“Then I am going to my brother
And I say brother assist me please
However he winds up knockin’ me
Again down on my knees, oh
There have been instances that I believed I couldn’t final for lengthy
However now I believe I’m capable of keep it up
It’s been a protracted, a very long time coming
However I do know a change is gonna come, oh sure it would”
~Sam Cooke, 1964, “A Change is Gonna Come”
One of many qualities I like about music is its’ potential to attach us in shared feelings. There’s no query that life will get tough typically. All of us expertise that in some unspecified time in the future, no matter our age or social standing or monetary wealth or geographic location. Grief, loss, despair, and tough modifications discover us all anyway. That may appear very true originally of a brand new 12 months.
This soulful, introspective tune by Sam Cooke sums up that life expertise. He sings about going by tough instances, being knocked down by folks he thought he may depend upon, and experiencing rejection. However by all of it he manages to carry on to the hope that sometime it would change. That sometime his life would enhance. He doesn’t sing particularly about how he is aware of that, and even what modifications he’s making. Solely that he is aware of issues will get higher.
I believe we are able to all determine with these emotions—hopeless, depressed, rejected, betrayed, grieved. If we’ve lived various years, we’ve all skilled these feelings in some unspecified time in the future in time. How do you take care of them? What coping abilities do you utilize? Are they wholesome coping abilities? How do you handle and work towards resolving these emotions?
Sam Cooke labored by these emotions by writing a tune. Perhaps listening to music is a method you can take care of tough emotions. Train is one other helpful choice. Or journaling if you happen to take pleasure in writing out your ideas. Art work is one other glorious method to assist take care of feelings. Speaking with family and friends can be useful. It’s essential to handle and work by these emotions. And it’s essential to search out some hope for the long run, similar to the singer within the tune.
If you happen to discover that you simply’re not coping with your tough emotions in a wholesome method, otherwise you’d merely like knowledgeable’s assist in doing so, please give me a name. I’d be completely happy to speak with you about how music remedy may also help!
~Stephanie Bolton, MA, MT-BC, FAMI