Not solely does prolonging your kiss to 10 seconds take a level of mindfulness and intentionality, that are each nice issues to have in a relationship, however Reed notes that it is also about actively selecting to admire your companion, selecting to create moments of intimacy collectively, and selecting to see them as your lover.
“Lots of people have a tough time with that phrase, ‘lover,’ and the factor is we find yourself being enterprise companions, or roommates, or finest mates,” she explains, including that every one too usually, individuals neglect they are often susceptible all through the day, not simply on date night time or after they’re having intercourse. “It is taking that second to actually admire the particular person and join, and then you definately get that huge burst of chemical substances,” she says.
And the 10-second kiss is very useful when greeting one another after time aside, she notes, because it helps to deliver you each to the identical “degree,” emotionally, also referred to as “attunement.”
“It form of breaks the strain of coming again collectively on the finish of the day to kiss for 10 seconds. Now you are in that zone collectively, you’ve got left work behind, and also you’re on this zone of being within the relationship,” Reed explains.