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Written by Rory Z Fulcher
As hypnotherapists, we assist shoppers with an unlimited vary of points and objectives. Nonetheless, some shopper points will not be fairly as simple because the ‘presenting downside’ may lead you to consider.
What’s a secondary acquire?
In psychological phrases, the phrase ‘secondary acquire’ refers to a profit that the remedy shopper will get from sustaining their downside. That is completely different to the ‘major acquire’, which is able to normally be rather more obvious and simple to recognise whenever you’re discussing the issue and the specified remedy end result with the shopper.
Typically, secondary positive factors are much less simple to identify than major positive factors, but they’re incessantly extra highly effective motivators for somebody to keep up their downside, and might trigger points with development by the hypnotherapy course of if they don’t seem to be correctly addressed.
An instance of a secondary acquire
For example of the distinction between a major acquire and a secondary acquire, a hypnotherapy shopper who desires to shed weight might have each major and secondary positive factors (or ‘advantages’) that trigger them to keep up their weight. On this instance, our weight administration shopper, Roberta, has a typical major acquire, in that she loves meals and presents herself as an epicurean (a devotee of ‘sensual enjoyment’, particularly regarding the enjoyment of foods and drinks). Nonetheless, that’s not the one motivator for her ongoing weight acquire. Roberta additionally has a deeper want, a secondary acquire, that’s encouraging her so as to add to her extra weight. Up till just lately, she was married to her ex-husband who she fell out of affection with, and for the previous couple of years she not felt bodily drawn to him – in actual fact, she not favored him a lot in any respect due him progressively changing into extra disrespectful and even brutish along with her. The issue was, he didn’t really feel the identical means. So, as the connection deteriorated for her, the husband nonetheless wished to keep up their sexual relationship.
Roberta didn’t have the boldness or assertiveness to flatly refuse her husbands romantic advances, and the one factor that finally stopped the romantic advances from occurring, was when she gained some weight. He then not discovered her enticing. She didn’t initially acquire weight on goal with this lead to thoughts, however when her husband determined that he not discovered her as enticing, and due to this fact stopped making an attempt to provoke intercourse, this spurred her on to proceed doing what she was doing, as she was ‘gaining’ from it, in additional methods than one.
The issue arose later, after they obtained divorced. Roberta maintained a dislike of the thought of getting one other sexual associate, and so her secondary acquire persevered in serving to her acquire weight so she might proceed to keep away from having a sexual relationship. In truth, it grew to become even stronger, as a result of now her being obese additionally ‘protected her’ from stepping into one other poisonous relationship the place she might need gotten damage once more.
Figuring out secondary positive factors
As an expert hypnotherapist, it is very important determine and recognise secondary positive factors early on within the remedy course of. The rationale for that is, if the hypnotherapist solely helps the shopper to work on lowering the issue, or helps them transfer in direction of their remedy objective, the secondary acquire continues to be there. If not addressed, it continues to affect the shopper’s behaviours and ideas, whether or not consciously or subconsciously. So, with the instance of Roberta, if the hypnotherapist was not conscious of the secondary acquire, they could have labored with Roberta to cut back her portion sizes, to decide on more healthy meals, to train extra, and so forth. Nonetheless, these adjustments in behaviour would doubtless solely final quickly (if in any respect), as a result of as quickly as she started to shed weight, she can be involved about her relationship anxieties, and would make an effort to return to her outdated (weight acquire) methods.
On our hypnotherapy diploma course, we educate our college students precisely the best way to determine secondary positive factors in the course of the hypnotherapy session. In some instances they are often comparatively simple to determine, in different instances, particular strategies can be utilized to attract the secondary acquire out from the shopper. Although the talent of recognising secondary positive factors just isn’t essentially taught on all hypnotherapy programs within the UK, we really feel that it’s an integral device that every one skilled hypnotherapists ought to have at their disposal.
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Working with secondary positive factors
As soon as a secondary acquire has been recognized, you possibly can then assist the shopper to successfully transfer forwards of their remedy course of. In lots of instances, the secondary acquire can come as a little bit of a shock to the shopper. Roberta might not have consciously realised that she was gaining weight to keep away from intercourse. Generally, it will probably simply occur {that a} sure behavioural or cognitive ‘behavior‘ can have extra advantages. Different instances, the shopper might concentrate on the secondary profit, however it may be embarrassing or extra private than they’d initially supposed on sharing in the course of the remedy session. Nonetheless, you possibly can work each in hypnosis and conversationally, taking behavioural, cognitive, analytical and even regression remedy approaches to be able to assist the shopper discover a new solution to fulfil the optimistic profit that their secondary acquire offers them, however with out maintaining maintain of the downside itself.
We hope you loved this weblog about secondary positive factors and hypnotherapy. In case you have any questions on this matter or anything for that matter, do please get in contact, as a result of we’re all the time glad to assist!
– written by Rory Z Fulcher
(HypnoTC Director)
