There’s a standard phrase within the homosexual neighborhood: “straight skinny however homosexual fats.” I’ve seen this time period practically in all places on social media. Whether or not it’s TikTok, Instagram, or Snapchat, this time period has made itself virtually a motto of the magnificence requirements within the homosexual neighborhood. The time period refers to somebody who can be thought of skinny in most of society however fats inside the homosexual neighborhood. To me, this time period exhibits you all you’ll want to find out about physique picture inside the homosexual neighborhood.
As a younger homosexual male, I all the time felt as if there have been numerous pressures and expectations when it got here to seems. You had been anticipated to be a sure weight, eat in a sure method, and look a sure means. On social media, I continuously noticed all these individuals with “excellent” our bodies. In my thoughts, these individuals had been full with “excellent” hair, “excellent” pores and skin, “excellent” form, and “excellent” physique sorts. It appeared to me like this was a purpose, one thing I too may get hold of. If solely I did this extra, or if solely I did that much less, I believed I too may get hold of these items.
For me, it wasn’t simply these unobtainable physique requirements that drove me to an consuming dysfunction. Controlling my consuming additionally served as a coping mechanism.
In my life, identical to many different queer youth, I discover it frequent to listen to feedback and judgement about my sexuality. Questions like “Why does your voice sound like that?” or “Why do you act like a woman?” and even the occasional slur are frequent occurrences. It’s one thing that I’m positive individuals inside the LGBTQ+ neighborhood are all too acquainted with. When I discovered myself unable to manage what individuals mentioned and thought of me, I turned to one thing I may management: my consuming.